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16

Jun

2015

Jillian Harris

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My Letter To The Boys Of The Bachelorette

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DEAR IAN,

WHOLLLLYYYY CRAPPPPPP (sorry Ian I hope that didn’t offend you, I know you don’t like poop jokes)

I almost want to start backwards here… so I will!! Ian. IAN IANNNNNN!!!!!!! BROOooooo. Ok I am no Confucius of relationships but Ian my doll you have a LONG way to go. I mean … WTF (What . The . Fart )  I am not saying you aren’t a catch. You clearly are educated, seriously looking for love, “GOOD LOOKING”, you have made it clear that you have dodged the face of death & travelled the world. That you are a gift, and you are infact an ENIGMA (ok we can all think that about ourselves but I’m not sure we should be broadcasting that???) … and you know what … that ALL may VERY well be true. But Ian … That does not make it Kaitlyns fault for not being into you, or you not being into her. You call her surface & shallow but YOU infact kept focussing on SURFACE items for the excuse of your lack of connection … at the end of the day, NONE of the things you described about yourself really matter when it comes to finding true love. A connection, is a connection, regardless of where you have traveled, how good looking you are or how educated you are.

At the risk of sounding like a grade 3 Lifestyle course, EVERYONE IS DIFFERENT – which is why you also have not found the ‘one’, because there will be another ‘very very good looking enigma’ out there waiting for you, that you jive with. It’s not YOUR fault, (although I found your monologue very ridiculous) and it’s not Kaitlyns fault. The fact that Kaitlyn might find poop jokes funny, is light hearted and you don’t find her interesting does not mean she has no depth, it’s JUST THE WAY SHE IS, and there will be someone else out there who meshes with her perfectly. God forbid everyone be the same. I think it was really cool of you to leave Ian, and recognize you weren’t a good fit for Kaitlyn, but to bash her and say it was her fault that you didn’t connect is just wrong.

CORDIALLY, JILLIAN HARRIS

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DEAR SHAWN,

SHAWWWWWNNNNNN you keep impressing me more every episode! Laying it all out on the line to Kaitlyn like that, was SO cool. I can feel the connection between you too … but I worry about you bro!! This process is super messed up on the brain. I will tell you first hand, whether you are in the drivers seat or you are one of the ‘contestants’ you DON’T FEEL like yourself and you find yourself over thinking EVERYTING. I know the shows taping is long over I just hope you can keep focussing on THAT connection and NOTHING else, even if there are things that hurt you along the way. I hope you keep reminding yourself that regardless of the ‘connection’  and how much you love Kailtyn this really isn’t REAL LIFE … she kind of HAS to keep the other guys around and keep exploring her time with them, unfortunately until the end. IF you can make it that far, you will be mint. (crossing my fingers!!!)

Luv, JILLY

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DEAR JOSH,

Josh, you are cute, simple (in a good way) and your heart is in the right place. But remember LOOSE LIPS SINK SHIPS (we’ve all learned, I’m not a saint and am a motor mouth myself) but hopefully you learned from this episode… sometimes it’s best to just zip it and focus on your END intention. I felt bad for you because I saw where you were going with your conversation to Kaitlyn, but it backfired. Why? You focused on the negative, and not the positive.

Over and Out,  Jillian

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DEAR NICK,

I don’t know why everyone has a hate on for you? I mean … listen when I hear the guys concerns, I hear them loud and clear. I would feel the SAME way. But SO FAR you have handled yourself fairly well. Yes you are a bit cocky (or confident) but I totally get it. LIFE IS SHORT … if you feel you MIGHT have a connection with someone and you are able to fly in there (albeit late to the party) to MAYBE see if she is ‘the one’ …. then why wouldn’t you? I think it would be crazier to sit at home and always wonder. Like the good ol Wayne Gretzky says … you miss 100% of the shots you don’t take. You might not be the most popular guy out there but AT LEAST you are moving and shaking and exploring the possibilities. I might change my mind down the road just so you know but for now you’re fine in my books.

Ciao! JILL

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DEAR KAITLYN,

You’re cute and I love your fringe skirt. That is it. xoxox

XO JILLY BABE (aka the bachelorette granny)

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  1. Amanda

    June 16th, 2015 at 12:29 pm

    Is it just me or do Ian and Kelsey seem perfect for eachother!!!!???

  2. Smith

    June 16th, 2015 at 1:43 pm

    Nick has kept it together, and kudos to him, however, there’s a reason why none of the guys really “jived” with him last season AND it was unacceptable for him to put Andy on the spot like that, a true gentleman wouldn’t do that on LIVE tv. So how is his behavior any different from Ian’s?

  3. Guest

    June 16th, 2015 at 2:10 pm

    His calling out Andi for sleeping with him was wrong but its NOT the same thing as Ian dissing Kaitlyn’s physical appearance or intelligence because she doesnt like him. He also seemed apologetic about it, so far I havent seen anything from Ian post show that makes me change my opinion of him.

  4. Jamie

    June 16th, 2015 at 3:54 pm

    I never thought it was wrong for Nick to ask Andi the questions he needed to ask. He tried to talk to her before ATFR, but she wouldn’t see him. I’m certain had she given him a straight answer when she said goodbye (like “I’m more in love with Josh than I am with you”), he wouldn’t have brought up what WE ALL KNOW happened in the Fantasy Suite. Ian was feeling insecure and his response was to belittle Kaitlyn. Nick never did that to Andi. He was broken-hearted, and would’ve gone back to her in a second! Ian….if he was the stand-up guy he claimed to be, he would’ve taken the high road and just said it’s not going to work.

    Jillian, I heart YOU! Your letters to each guy are spot on, and I am feeling ya! 🙂

  5. Subro

    June 16th, 2015 at 6:05 pm

    Nick made it clear throughout Andi’s season of The Bachelorette that he took intimacy very serious…like engagement stuff. Nick tried several times after the finale to speak to Andi about her decision to choose Josh and she wouldn’t see him. They documented that in the ATFR show. Then when he finally had the opportunity to confront her on the ATFR show she said “She had known it was Josh all along and had NEVER had real feelings for Nick.” Of course Nick is then thinking then why did you make love to me? As far as I am concerned Andi asked for it. I believe she was truly smitten with Nick and didn’t want Josh to know that. Once she chose Josh she rewrote the script and Nick held her accountable to the truth. If this had been The Bachelor and not The Bachelorette everyone would have sided with the contestant and NOT The Bachelor. I think Andi got what she deserved and have not held it against Nick for asking her the question. Ian on the other hand was insulted that he wasn’t appreciated enough and therefore attacked Kaitlyn on anything and everything he could.

  6. FelicityinPortland

    June 16th, 2015 at 2:02 pm

    Are you going to do a post about what she was wearing 🙂

  7. Alysia De Nino

    June 17th, 2015 at 9:54 am

    Love Love Love this post! Way to go Jill! You hit the nail right on the head 🙂

  8. Suzy

    June 17th, 2015 at 8:05 pm

    Great blog Jillian!

  9. Bernice

    June 20th, 2015 at 3:36 pm

    I dnt mean to offend anyone here in any way nor do i agree with what Ian did. I am not accusing anyone of being racist or anything like that…. However, as a woman of color i always feel as though the contestants from minority groups are always just in the background. Ill admit i dnt follow the bachelor religiously but this is an observation i have made.. i could very well be wrong. Of course catherine is an exception to this and there may be more. B4 Ian did what he did..to me he did seem to be a catch. If he had white skin and all else remained the same would he have flown under the radar? Im not so sure…

  10. Meliss

    June 24th, 2015 at 12:38 am

    Holy! Was that even one iota of real? Can’t be, right? That must have been all ABC’s concoction! P.S. Ian, no matter how many times you say the word….you will NOT be the next Bachelor…right, ABC?! LOL.

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